#GET OVER YOURSELF

Hey random people! i know it's been two weekends since my last post, sorry about that, i have been quite busy planning my next 30 before 30 adventure(okay i'm lying, not planning anything, i have just been busy with being busy, heh) Anyways, i hope your valentine's day went well, congratulations once again to everyone that got engaged, *kisses* Now moving on! I'm here to give you a tough-loving-harsh-kinda advise. GET OVER YOURSELF! 

Bernard Baily once said "when science discovers the center of the universe, a lot of people will be disappointed to find they are not it." seriously i think it's time you realized that other people's behavior isn't about you, so GET OVER YOURSELF.

Buffy in Buffy the vampire slayer once said "you are an idiot. my life happens to, on occasion suck beyond the telling of it. Sometimes more than i can handle, and it's not just mine. Every single person down there is ignoring your pain because they're busy dealing with their own." So brothers & sisters GET OVER YOURSELF. You think you're the only one in pain? Allow me to comfort you, i'm in pain too. You think your Life sucks? well honey, i have news for you, over a billion individuals around the world including me also thinks their life sucks, so GET OVER YOURSELF.

You suffered brutal physical abuse & severe sexual abuse at the hands of several adults including your father, well let me tell you who else suffered such, more than a thousand others including Tyler Perry, yes the same Tyler Perry, the media mogul sitting at the top of the A-list, producer of more than 30 plays, movies & TV shows, who was in 2010 named second highest earning man in Hollywood by Forbes magazine, yes the one and only Tyler Perry, so don't you think you have cried enough? Don't you think you have allowed your pain & anger to define you & your future enough? My dear GET OVER YOURSELF. You might think witnessing a parent's divorce, living with someone who has a drug/alcohol problem, or struggling with the economy is the worst thing that could happen to you but my dear none of these can limit your success except you allow it to so GET OVER YOURSELF.

The great Oprah Winfrey also suffered from a traumatic childhood, she had to turn to a power greater than herself (God's Will), it was her way of getting over herself, to persevere & make it through, if she could do it? What's your excuse? my dear GET OVER YOURSELF.

I want to tell you the story of a boy whose schoolmaster sent him out of school while another schoolmaster declared that he would never amount to much, well that boy is today regarded as one of the smartest men of all time, that boy was Albert Einstein, So you have been embarrassed, disgraced, let down, almost everyone has written you off & declared you the most unlikely to succeed, so now you are lashing out but all these your rebelliousness is only proving them right which is why you need to take charge of your life and GET OVER YOURSELF! (By the way i was gonna use Kanye West as an example 'cos apparently back in high school he was voted most unlikely to succeed but in his current situation, i don't think using him as an example would buttress my point, haha, besides i don't think Kanye has gotten over himself)

You need to know that not everyone is out to get you, sometimes a prank is just what it is, a prank, learn how to laugh at yourself, stop taking life so seriously, when someone plays a prank on you, a prank that seems so expensive, relax and look at the funny side and join them in laughter, take your feet out of your ass and GET OVER YOURSELF! 

Drawing from Whitney Brown in the big picture, we get it, you are beautiful/sexy/handsome/attractive/talented/rich and whatever, so you feel like treating everyone like crap is okay 'cos you are supposedly 'special' & better than everyone but let's assume there are a billion people in the world. it's not easy to be an individual in a crowd of more than a billion people. Think of it. More than a BILLION people. That means even if you're a one-in-a-million type of guy/girl, there are still a thousand guys/girls exactly like you so GET OVER YOURSELF.

Now don't even get me started on Eminem, you have a one room apartment & you're still complaining, GET OVER YOURSELF! Eminem grew up in a trailer home, he battled domestic violence as a youngster and felt bullied among his peers, he channeled all these hurt, anger, frustration & pain into his music, just read his biography or listen to the lyrics of his songs. He was named the best-selling artist of the decade in 2009.

According to Nairaland.com Omotola Jolade Ekeinde lost her father at a tender age, her Life changed forever then, life became harder and they had to live from hand to mouth, they had to beg at one point to survive, she made the Times Magazine list of Most Influential People in the world in 2003. Mercy Johnson Okojie and her family moved into an uncompleted building where they lived with Lizards, it rained inside the house because it was without roof/windows, today Mercy Johnson is one of the most sought after Nigerian actress, earning about 1.8million Naira per script. Ramsey Noah went from Grace to Grass, his mum lost all her wealth and they had to struggle to meet ends meet, there were times that they had to sleep under the bridge, they didn't have ordinary cup to drink water talk-less of stove to cook. Ramsey Noah is today a Superstar known both home and abroad. Joseph Benjamin went from being a bus conductor, security guard, waiter, Bakery worker to a shoe seller, he is one of the best actors in Nigeria today. Don Jazzy worked various odd jobs including working at McDonalds and as a security guard. He was recently rated the 36th most powerful celebrity in Africa according to forbes. My point is everyone has problems so Get over your situation and Move on!

Eleanor Roosevelt also said "you wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do", so GET OVER YOURSELF! It isn't always about you. Nothing is easy, absolutely nothing in Life is easy, it might seem easy for some people but you really don't know what the person had to go through or is still going through, nobody's journey is the same, so stop with your delusions of inadequacy and grandeur and GET OVER YOURSELF!

Sure your past grudges & anger might/would continue to hurt but the thing about getting over yourself is accepting this fact. The truth is today your Life might suck 100% & tomorrow, your Life might suck 80%, you just have to accept it and move on with courage/hope even if it's for the sake of the remaining 20% that your life doesn't suck for.Tony Gaskins once said "The biggest hurdle in Life is getting over yourself. Once you get over yourself, you can get anywhere" so PLEASE GET OVER YOURSELF!!! I could go on and on but i'm sure you get my point, the only person holding you back is 'YOU', no 'enemy' or 'hater' can stop your destiny or stop you from shining so GET OVER YOURSELF AND SHINE! GOD BLESS US ALL...

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#DON'T PROPOSE

DISCLAIMER: This post is in no way intended to disrespect those that got engaged on valentine's day or those that are about to get engaged, i genuinely wish you 'happily ever after'. This post is exclusively my thought/opinion, though i do not expect everyone to agree, i do however expect it to be respected the same way i would respect yours. Thank You!

Hey Random People! Happy Lovey-Dovey Season! It's the season of love people! Smile! Live! Love! Laugh! heh! Now as you can tell i'm really excited, i'm a Lovey-dovey-hopeless-romantic kind of person, so naturally i love love season! heh! Now most people feel like valentine is only for boyfriends/girlfriends/lovers/married people or whatever  but Valentine is for everyone, it's about showing love to random people and not so random people. Looking back i only just realized that i'm usually single on valentine's day hahaha! but unlike some people i'm never depressed, i don't organize 'i-hate-valentine's day' dinners (i know for a fact that people actually do this) Anyways! i'm already rambling, i tend to 'ramble' sometimes! especially when i'm excited or nervous, i could be awkward sometimes, really, heh! Anyways what i'm trying to say is you do not have to be in a romantic relationship to give or receive a valentine gift. Look around you i'm sure you'll see someone in dire need of a smile, a thoughtful gift would do that, so this valentine season Make-a-Random-Person-Smile! (i'm a random person you can make me smile by giving me a Maltese puppy, thank you very much) heh! And now to my random point of the day:

I get that it's valentine Season, i get that it's the season of  Love, i get that you are in Love, i get that you want to spend the rest of your life with her, i also get that you want to show her a romantic gesture and i get that your romantic gesture is by proposing on Valentine's day, Now get this, don't do it, i repeat don't propose, allow me to emphasize DO NOT PROPOSE! Okay i know you don't get it, so let me explain. Sure proposing on Valentine's day is romantic but if you want it to be special which i'm sure you do, proposing on valentine's day isn't going to make it special because let's face it it is kind of a cliche, at least that's how i feel. Seriously have you ever tried googling the word 'special'? try it , you'll see words like 'exceptional, distinctive, particular, specific, better, greater or otherwise different from what is usual'. So my dear brother what is unusual about proposing on Valentine's day? You and over a million other men are going to propose on valentine's day! 

In 2013, American Express spending and saving Tracker consumer report surveyed American's Valentine's day plans and found that six million couples were likely to get engaged on Feb 14! haha! 6 Million! and that's just America! Imagine around the globe! and that was 2years ago! The survey this year estimated 14 million !!! hahaha!   I know some people are like common Mo it isn't a big deal but i'm telling you, i do not want to be proposed to on Valentine's day and trust me the fact that i feel this way, over a million random girls feels the same way! (including your girlfriend) heh!  Seriously, do you really want the same proposal story with over 14 million people!? Do you really want your proposal to be a cliche? Common! you can do better!

Okay let's picture these together, while having valentine- dinner at a wonderful romantic restaurant, the food is perfect (if she's like me the food had better be perfect, heh!) the setting is perfect, the mood is perfect, you excuse yourself briefly to use the rest room but really you are just going to confirm with the chef/waiter to make sure the ring is in the right kind of chocolate cake/dessert (and if she's like me, she's probably going to swallow the ring in the food, ha! seriously though the person that came up with the idea of putting ring inside food needs to be flogged, how is that romantic?) or to make sure they bring in the wine and fireworks at the right moment so you can go down on one knee to propose, just know that you'll meet more than five men in the kitchen with the chef, doing the exact same thing or if you really go to the rest room to say a silent prayer, just know you'll meet more than six men, also there to control their nervousness before they propose. Even if it's a cinema, just know more than ten guys are preparing to do the exact same thing, propose! If it's on a boat cruise, more than ten men are preparing to propose and so on and so forth. 

Four out of ten couples gathered in a place on valentine's day are about to get engaged, while people are 'awww-ing' and 'ohhh-ing' or clapping to the fact that you just got engaged, they would be cut 'mid-clap' because their attention would be shifted to another couple that just got engaged! Imagine four people getting engaged at the same exact moment, in 10 different locations on each street in a state, in a country, in the world! Ah! this calculation is giving me a headache already! heh! but i'm sure you get my point. I can bet you my favorite shoes that just as you are about to pick your phone to call your friend that you just got engaged your phone would ring and it would be that same friend or another friend calling to tell you she just got engaged! haha! 

I could go on and on but i'm sure you get my point, so make that proposal special by proposing on the 5th day of February or the 3rd day of July or the 25th of April  or the 7th of November or the 26th of August, you get my point? Basically, more than half of women around the world (maybe i'm exaggerating) expect to get engaged on valentine's day, i do not think that is special, i think taking her out on an absolutely random day when she isn't expecting it and proposing to her is so absolutely special and romantic! What do you think? Comment and Share! Happy valentine's day people! Don't forget to Make-a-Random-Person-Smile this season of love and remember, Live! Love! Laugh! xox 

On that note, Congratulations to all the men that are about to propose on the 14th of February, i hope she says yes! and to my beautiful women out there thinking of saying yes when he proposes, Congratulations! And to the women expecting to be proposed to, don't be disappointed if he doesn't! Have a good weekend!

Random hint: i'll be expecting my Maltese puppy! heh!